Singles in America: Questions on Men vs. Women

Here is some breaking news: most of your notions about singles are wrong. Even if you aren’t married, this holds true. On Feb 2nd, separates fact from fiction in our second annual “Single in America” study — the largest and most comprehensive look at single life in the U.S. today. With that in mind, our street team pounded the pavement to gather a few opinions prior to our data being released, while we decided to reach out to dating expert K. Aleisha Fetters. We wanted to see if our street team’s findings in the video above were much different from our online expert’s thoughts on a topic that we like to call: Men vs. Women.

K. Aleisha Fetters is Associate Online Editor & Dating Blogger for What do you think men are most concerned with physically: their weight, their height, or being muscular?

K. Aleisha Fetters: Their height. Many women would agree. Why do you think height trumps other physical traits that might concern men?

Fetters: Men think that women won’t date them if they are short. Who said physical appearance is more of a “must have” in a relationship: single men or women?

Fetters: Men. Why do you think that’s the case?

Fetters: Men are very visual. Dr. Helen Fisher would agree on that point. Who do you think “checks out” their dates more on Facebook, men or women?

Fetters: Women. Why do you think women engage in this behavior?

Fetters: Women like to get more information so they can be sure that someone is a decent guy. Do you have a “detective” story you want to share?

Fetters: Don’t think so, but if I can’t find someone on Facebook or Google, it seems very strange. Who’s more comfortable with PDA (public displays of affection): single men or women?

Fetters: Women, being that they are stereotypically more lovey-dovey. So then, who do you think takes longer to recover after a breakup: men or women?

Fetters: Women take longer to recover. What determined your answer?

Fetters: Oxytocin [the hormone that encourages bonding].

Check back here on February 2nd to see how American singles responded to the exact same questions in our second annual “Single in America” study.


  1. Posted January 31, 2012 at 12:23 pm | Permalink | Reply

    Great interview. I look forward to reading the outcomes of the study, I’d love to share it. In fact, I just recently did a blog post about oxytocin.

  2. Erik
    Posted June 8, 2012 at 8:43 am | Permalink | Reply Do you have a “detective” story you want to share?

    Fetters: Don’t think so, but if I can’t find someone on Facebook or Google, it seems very strange.

    Maybe unlike you that person has a life off line. I didn’t have a FB page until recently.
    I get friend request from people I never heard of. Some people seem to think the more friends you have online the bigger your life. I’m sorry if you have 200 friends on FB you don’t have 200 real friends. You have 200 strangers who were nice enough to click I like on your page. I know people who don’t have a FB page out of principal. I rarely go into chat rooms because I prefer to talk on the phone or face to face. In fact I broke up with my ex because she spent most of her time in chat rooms even when I traveled 200 miles to see her. I rarely use my FB page. You won’t find much about me on Google and FB. Dose this seem strange to you. I think people who live online are strange. There used to be some mystery involved with dating. Now people seem to think it’s weird if they don’t know your whole life’s story before the first date. Never mind the fact people can claim to be anything online especially identity thieves These sties don’t vet anyone who joins or goes to their events. Which is like laying out the welcome mat for cheating spouses and criminals looking to victimize lonely and vulnerable people. A member of my church was stranded out of state by a con artist he met on of these sites. People who run these sites only care about making money off of people’s lonely heats.

    • Posted June 11, 2012 at 1:37 pm | Permalink | Reply

      Sorry to hear about your experience on Facebook and online in general, Erik. Wishing you the best of luck in love, wherever your journey takes you.

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